feeling of guilt

feeling of guilt
We all experience feelings of guilt. Some of us experience them less and some of us have been living with frequent and permanent guilt. In my professional experience, many people, especially women, are addicted to feelings of guilt
 
feelings of guilt
 
When was the last time that you felt feelings of guilt? Was it today or yesterday, or are you actually feeling
 guilty right now about something that has happened or might happen
 
We all experience feelings of guilt. Some of us experience them less and some of us have been living with frequent and permanent guilt. In my professional experience, many people, especially women, are addicted to feelings of guilt


Feelings of guilt are so common and frequent that we express them without paying attention. For example we might often think: "I've behaved so badly", "I screwed up", "I'm such a failure", or "I'm not supposed to feel like that". Sometimes we can feel the guilt directly inside our bodies as distress, as a pain, or as discomfort

So the
 question is: Why are so many of us addicted to guilt
?Why do we keep preserving it
 
The interesting fact is that we have an unconscious belief that if we keep feeling guilty, we are more moral or caring, and in some ways we believe that this is the way to change things. As if the more guilty and ashamed I am, the greater my chances of making changes will be. We're addicted to feelings of guilt because they free us from really taking responsibility for our behavior. They help us stay in our comfort zone: complaining without changing anything. We like it .Don't we

The real truth is that feelings of guilt can be depressing and keep you from moving forward in your life
A good example of that is a procrastination. People who use to put off their tasks again and again, use to blame themselves and to feel  very guilty about it, the result is that the more they blame themselves the more they procrastinate
 
Here are some tips and ideas on how to deal with guilt
 
Realize that guilt is normal and we all have it. Realize that the fear of failure causes the guilt, and try to accept this fear

Learn from those actions which make you feel guilty and try to think what you could have done differently
 
Take realistic decisions and self promises about the next time
 
  Think about actions that might help you
 
If your actions have hurt someone, apologize to that person. This will help reduce some of the guilt.
Even if the hurt party does not accept your apology immediately, know that you have done the best you
could

"Take a lesson from the fictional character Scarlett O'Hara: "After all...tomorrow is another day 
Realize each day is a new beginning filled with promise, hope and the opportunity to start over
 
Each time a guilty feeling arises, take one positive and affirmative step. For example, if
you feel guilty about hurting one of your kid's feeling, try to do a nice and fun activity with him
 .Do a good deed. Helping others often helps the person who offers help as well

Seek medical assistance if necessary in cases of an heavy guilt. Excessive guilt could be part of a
 psychological or medical condition
 
In conclusion, remember that feelings of guilt are not helpful, and may even be harmful! Try to pay attention
 the next time you experience these feelings.  Take a small step to understand and accept the fear which lies behind the guilt. Then try to switch off the thoughts of guilt by taking responsibility.  Thoughts such as: "I'm choosing to learn from what happened and to act differently next time” will help you use your feelings of guilt as a ramp  towards making real changes and positive developments in your behavior.

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